When the dreams of your son/daughter are crushed!

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It is at this time of the year that the older pupils at Little Voices are going for auditions and interviews for further education. Whether they are aiming for university courses, the workplace or drama school their Little Voices training comes in very handy and we have discussed the benefits and tips many times! Sadly however there are occasions when the audition, interview or selection process does not go to plan and there are times when we see very disappointed pupils. So what can we do as parents and teachers when a young person’s dreams are crushed and what they had their heart set on seems no longer within reach at that point for them.

Look for the positives. In the case of drama schools they are looking for something quite specific and there are so many factors to take into consideration. Often maturity and life experience are very much on the list of their prerequisites and with the best will in the world teenagers have not had very much life experience on the whole!

I always encourage a pupil to reflect and try to discover what went wrong, what they could have done better or what has the process taught them? This way it is not all doom and gloom and the pupil can start to feel hopeful and constructively focus on how to improve or change. It could be the repertoire or one particular discipline that let them down. It is crucial at this point to put a plan together for next steps! All is not lost and the determination to keep going and to try again is the attitude that is needed. This will be the first of many knocks that they take in life especially following a performing arts career path. A thick skin is much needed!

We have all been there and felt disappointed, totally gutted, devastated even when something has not gone our way but there is generally always a reason why we end up on a different path and only time reveals what that ‘why’ is.

So as a parent you can only be there to listen, help to construct a new plan of attack and help your son/daughter to brush themselves down and move on with focus and determination.

Dreams do become a reality but they rarely come without heartache along the way and it is just a learning curve!

We hope that you have a great week!It is at this time of the year that the older pupils at Little Voices are going for auditions and interviews for further education. Whether they are aiming for university courses, the workplace or drama school their Little Voices training comes in very handy and we have discussed the benefits and tips many times! Sadly however there are occasions when the audition, interview or selection process does not go to plan and there are times when we see very disappointed pupils. So what can we do as parents and teachers when a young person’s dreams are crushed and what they had their heart set on seems no longer within reach at that point for them.

Look for the positives. In the case of drama schools they are looking for something quite specific and there are so many factors to take into consideration. Often maturity and life experience are very much on the list of their prerequisites and with the best will in the world teenagers have not had very much life experience on the whole!

I always encourage a pupil to reflect and try to discover what went wrong, what they could have done better or what has the process taught them? This way it is not all doom and gloom and the pupil can start to feel hopeful and constructively focus on how to improve or change. It could be the repertoire or one particular discipline that let them down. It is crucial at this point to put a plan together for next steps! All is not lost and the determination to keep going and to try again is the attitude that is needed. This will be the first of many knocks that they take in life especially following a performing arts career path. A thick skin is much needed!

We have all been there and felt disappointed, totally gutted, devastated even when something has not gone our way but there is generally always a reason why we end up on a different path and only time reveals what that ‘why’ is.

So as a parent you can only be there to listen, help to construct a new plan of attack and help your son/daughter to brush themselves down and move on with focus and determination.

Dreams do become a reality but they rarely come without heartache along the way and it is just a learning curve!

We hope that you have a great week!

Ashlea.